Updates!

So I’m back and added a bunch more feminism/politics blogs, and a few vulvodynia/FSD blogs I’m very excited to see (and will be commenting on soon), but I haven’t yet updated the adoption-related blogroll. But I plan to.

It occurs to me that I’m now willing to be candid about sex, including my own sex life, on here (kind of the point of starting this in the first place), but don’t know if I want to talk about my personal relationship to adoption. So, the occasional news/rants about adoption will have to suffice.

News/rants, example of: here in Chicagoland one of the top stories, if not THE top story, in past weeks was President Obama’s commencement address last weekend at Notre Dame (and honorary degree), and the protests of such by anti-abortion groups. Okay. I don’t mind most of what he said in the excerpts of the speech I heard, except it makes me crazy every time I hear the “let’s discuss common ground to reduce abortion” argument floated when, this can’t be said often enough, NO PRO-LIFE GROUP SUPPORTS BIRTH CONTROL. NONE. I am sure many pro-life individuals kind of get the concept of better access and knowledge of birth control helping to reduce the number of unintended pregnancies and hence abortions, but none of the major groups endorse it. No, they’re too busy trying to make it sound like Plan B/emergency contraception IS abortion, and therefore, birth control pills (since Plan B is just a high dosage/combination of such) are abortion…I’m not sure the average person KNOWS this. And then there’s promoting adoption as a simple, “oh why don’t more people think of that?” alternative to abortion. (I believe adoption is usually considered as an alternative to the woman’s raising the child herself, not to abortion.) Sigh. If anti-abortion groups endorse more support for single and/or poor mothers who might feel abortion is their only option (and I’ve heard that the abortion rate has gone up in this economy), that’s terrific. But do they? Uh, I probably should have researched this to back it up with studies and statistics, but I still think I’m on surer ground than the “let’s work together for our common goals!” myopia that infects so much mainstream discussion on reproductive rights.

End rant. Next up: references to my personal life that make it so difficult for me to tell anyone but internet strangers about this blog’s existence!

I’m back.

I was just thinking how much I wanted to write here again, and checked in on Figleaf’s blog and there’s a recent post about a new-ish blog about feminism and female sexual dysfunction, particularly pain disorders, and I was all excited about that. Then I saw I was blogrolled there! Not sure I’m blogrolled anywhere, and nothing will guilt-trip you into blogging again like seeing that…I have ideas for posts but let me just get this one up to remember how the hell to use WordPress again (for instance, I keep forgetting what my user name is…).

So! Since the last post…nothing happened with whoever I was writing about at the time (someone I lusted after, but who just wanted to be friends, mild disappointment, moved on). Something mostly cool happened with one guy, something that seemed cool but was also confusing and now seems not that cool happened with another guy, and at the risk of jinxing things, very cool things might be happening soon with yet another guy (all the others are out of the picture, so now you know I don’t have some exciting polyamorous life or anything) and that is why these issues are on my mind again. It’s too depressing to write about sex when I’m not having any (and if I didn’t clarify this elsewhere, any time I say “sex” I’m talking about all sexual activity, not the specific act that gives me trouble…). But now…